Have you ever had to deal with a family member, friend, or co-worker who happens to be an arrogant sod? No doubt you have. You will therefore sympathize with this blog of mine, and maybe even derive some amusement and satisfaction from it. But are you an arrogant person yourself? If so, then you may or may not be willing to admit it. And if you are an arrogant person who is aware of it, and you strive to alleviate that annoying personality characteristic, then good for you. If you’re actually proud of it or don’t see it as a problem, then, well… people have all the more reason to get annoyed and infuriated with you during every single conversation they have with you… not to mention leave your name off of any party list of theirs, unless of course you’re a family member and they feel obligated to invite you anyway.
Needless to say, here are the chief characteristics of an arrogant person that we have all come to know but certainly not love.
1) They love to dispense advice every chance they get, but never want to accept any… or believe they ever require it. In actuality, of course, they need it much more than the typical non-arrogant person does.
2) They talk down to others. What do I mean by that, specifically? Anyone who has experienced it during their unfortunate convos with an arrogant person gets the gist, so I’m just going to put it into plain words here (or try to): They always speak to everybody from a seeming position of authority, as if they always know more about any given topic of conversation than the person they are speaking to. This is because they always think they know more of any given topic than anyone they may be talking to.
3) On the flip side, they act highly offended if you try to offer them any helpful advice or help in general. This is because requiring help or advice is a sign of weakness to an arrogant person. They only perceive weakness in others, but never themselves, which is why they have no problem with shoving advice down anyone else’s throat but take it as an insult if it’s ever offered to them. This, of course, forces them to constantly rationalize or downplay all of their screw-ups, particularly those that happened because they refused any offer of help or advice under circumstances when they gravely needed it.
4) They love displaying their elevated opinion of their own authority by frequently disagreeing with you about anything and everything during a conversation on any given topic. If you say you love that clear blue sky on a sunny day that everyone can clearly see with their own eyes, they will opine that the sky isn’t actually blue, it’s a mistaken perception on your part because [blah blah blah…].
5) If they don’t present themselves as an authority on anything and everything to you, then you can rest assured they know at least one person who happens to be a higher authority than you on the subject in question, and were thoroughly enlightened as to every aspect of the topic by them. How do you know they know such people? Because they will bring them up numerous times during a conversation in an attempt to bolster their own authority on a topic. Example: If they happen to have a close relative who is a nurse, then they consider themselves the equivalent of a nurse themselves due to their frequent conversations about every conceivable medical matter with this relative.
6) They love hearing themselves talk, but not so much anyone else. You will find it very difficult to successfully complete a full sentence during a typically one-sided conversation with them, because they always find the need to interrupt you with a rebuttal before you have the chance to get any of your points in. After all, why should they let you complete a sentence when they just know that whatever you have to say couldn’t possibly be very important anyway, right?
7) When they don’t talk down to you and interrupt your sentences half or a quarter of the way through, they won’t talk to you at all. If you say something to them first, they will walk right by you with scant acknowledgement of your greeting, statement, or even your presence, as if to do so would constitute slumming on their part. (But considering how conversations with them tend to go, and how frustrating they are to relate to, it’s probably a blessing in disguise when they do this.)
8) They will never acknowledge or defer to another person’s expertise at something in any overt fashion, because to do that is a sign of weakness to an arrogant person.
9) No matter what you’ve done or seen, they’ve also seen it or done it… only better. They have a compelling egotistical need to top every story they hear from anyone else; they don’t simply need to “keep up” with the Jones’s, they have to outdo them completely. For instance, if you excitingly tell them you found a five dollar bill, they won’t smile and say “cool”; instead, they’ll scoff and bring up the time they found a twenty dollar bill (Translation: “See, I’m better than you are!”). Other example: If you tell them how excited you were to have met and gotten the autograph of your favorite movie or pop star, they’ll bring up all the afternoons they played golf with this star or at least know someone who has, thus making them an absolute expert about every single aspect of this celebrity’s personal life, including many details that The National Enquirer would pay a fortune to know (Translation: “My life soooo tops yours any day!” and “There’s nothing you know that I don’t know in a lot more detail! Boo-yah!”).
10) They are very quick – and more than happy – to dish out criticism for something you did, but very reluctant to ever give you or anyone else a compliment, even if they actually feel you deserved it. If called on this, they will justify this type of loaded behavior by saying they are just “very honest” about other people’s foibles. If you ask them why they can’t be equally honest about when they feel you deserve a compliment, they will explain having a strong concern that if they give you deserved props, they risk giving you an inflated ego. In other words, they worry they may risk making you more like them, and arrogant people apparently can’t stand the haughty attitudes of kindred souls (Translation: “It’s all fine if you and others have to put up with me, but that doesn’t mean I would want to have to put up with myself!”).
Don’t you just so not love arrogant people?